Less is more

The things I need to do less of…

  • Complain
  • Eating chocolate
  • Spend money on things the children do not need
  • Jump to conclusions
  • Make excuses for others
  • Drinking coffee
  • Not believing in myself
  • Thinking opinions of others is the truth
  • Being way too harsh on myself when I skip a workout
  • Judging someone on their beliefs
  • Thinking I’m a bad mum
  • Feeling guilty for eating meat
  • Get emotional about Brexit
  • Snap at the kids when I’m stressed
  • Snap at Mitchell when I’m tired
  • Take it personally when people do not tidy up after themselves
  • Take it personally when someone doesn’t believe in what I believe in
  • Beat myself up over not having time to reach out to family

I’m going to try my hardest, to make small changes. I won’t be able to do all of this over night. But here’s me trying to improve my thinking, mood, and life. Life is crazy and I want to slow down, slow down with being so emotionally involved with so many things, slow down and take it all in, slow down and appreciate everyone and anyone around me.

What things do you need to do less of?

Alex

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An interview with my boyfriend

Since the interview post, with my daughter Florence, did so well, I thought it would be cute, to start asking different family members random questions, (individually). Sometimes you never know certain things, until you ask them! If you don’t ask you don’t get… so the second person I’ll be interviewing, is my boyfriend, Mitchell Le Tissier, I can’t live with him but I also can’t live without him *sick in mouth*

So here it goes….

*Alex

*Mitch

So let’s start off real easy…

What do you think the meaning of life is?

I don’t think there is one, I just think it is what it is!

What’s your earliest memory?

I genuinely don’t know, actually… yes going to the hospital when keeleigh was born (sister)

Snog, Marry, or kill – Kim Kylie kourtney Kardashian

You could’ve put Khloe in, you know she’s my favourite! Ok I’ll have to go with, marry Kim, snog Kylie even though I don’t think she’s anything great! And kill Kourtney, she annoys me the most out of all of them. I’m a Khloe man.

If You could get rid of one football team apart from Portsmouth, which team would it be and why?

Man united, all their plastic fans irritate me.

Would you call yourself a feminist?

Yes.

What’s your opinion on Brexit?

Um, it’s a pointless revolt, cutting off our nose to spite our face someone needs to show some balls and try stop it.

Who’s the last person to text you? And what does it say?

Alex garner – that’s a service!

Would you rather be the most attractive man in the whole world or be the most intelligent?

I’m already both! Um intelligent. I’ve been fighting women off my whole life I’m tired of it...

If you could personally witness any sporting event from the past which would it be and why?

That’s a great question that is, I will say kauto star fifth king George, because he is one of the greats and everyone loves a come back.

What’s your opinion on the new saints F.C. manager?

The only plausible option.It couldn’t get any worse.

If you were in charge of saints what would you change?

If I owned the club? Ye , well… there’s not a lot that does need to change but the calibre of players that we sign.

What cheers you up?

Not a lot… laughs…playing with the kids.

What makes you sad?

The state of the world we live in. Brexit.

What’s your favourite smell?

The smell of Cheltenham on the Tuesday.

What’s it like having a famous dad?

It has positive and negative sides to it. Obviously negative is you constantly get asked if you are related to him. And positive I get to see him on telly every week.

Least favourite sport and why?

Rugby. Rugby union. I haven’t been brought up with it and I don’t really get it.

What are your favourite things about your mum and your dad?

They are always there for me.

Who’s more of a creep the Easter bunny or the tooth fairy?

The tooth fairy. She watches you sleep, psycho bitch.

Apart from your immediate family (mum, dad, children, siblings) who’s your favourite family member?

My pop.

If you could switch lives with someone for one day who would it be?

Roger Federer

What’s the best and worst thing about being a dad?

The best, coming back to house and see them smile. And the worst I haven’t slept past 7am in nearly two years.

What do you think about when you’re alone?

Sport

What is it like being a brother to three sisters?

Stressful

Favourite room in the house?

Bathroom

Do you think there’s a god?

No

What would be the title of your autobiography?

Mitch understood… you get it?

Would you rather smoke 40 cigs a day or drink 40 pints?

I couldn’t drink 40 pints, so I’d say smoke but eurgh.

If you could change one thing about me what would it be?

I’d want you to believe in yourself more.

Why do you think Hillary Clinton lost against trump?

Because the vast majority of Americans are very insular

If you spoke a different language what would it be?

Spanish.

What Would you rather be welsh or Scottish?

Scottish

If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your life what would it be?

I will say, sausages and sweet potato fries.

What was your opinion on me becoming a mum so young?

I think it was good for you, and I think you are a better person for it. You were a bellend before hand. But you are now an excellent mother.

Why do you prefer cats over dogs?

Less needy and they’re cuter just nicer less aggressive.

What’s the most annoying thing about commuting to work?

Strikes

Would you rather be squished to death by a hippo or fall to your death from a plane?

I think fall from a plane. The falling feeling would be quite exhilarating.

Name a celebrity you can’t stand?

Gemma Collins. She’s extremely irritating

If you could fly where would you fly to?

Australia

How many babies should I have?

No more. Giggles.

Should we get married?

Maybe later. If you’re lucky!

What do you wish for your children?

For them to be happy

Name a skill you wish you had?

I wish I could sing.

Which one of your dads goals is your favourite?

The first time I saw him score was Sheffield Wednesday in 1997.

Do you believe in love at first site?

Yeah I do.

How many times have you been in love?

Once.

What advice could you give your younger self?

Save some money.

Who’s your best friend?

You are.

If I murdered someone would you try and cover it up?

Yes I actually would.

Name four celebs you’d have at your dinner party?

Robbie Williams, Brian Clough, Kevin Pietersen, Keifer Sutherland.

If you were to write a message in a bottle what would it be?

SEND HELP

Name something most people wouldn’t know about you?

I failed my gcse cookery.

the end.

Forever and always

“Ageing is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always should have been” – David Bowie

If you know me, or even if you’ve just been reading my blog posts, you’ll probably know by now that I do not do tradition, I don’t like following the crowd and I always follow my gut.

For a while, I was certain that I wasn’t going to get married. I’m not engaged, but marriage is spoken about every so often. It won’t be a traditional wedding, and not many people will be invited. My dress will cost about 20 quid and I’ll be wearing trainers.

One of the questions that popped up during these/our wedding conversations, is surnames. Will I be taking on the same surname? Answer is – no. And there are lots of reasons why :

1. My name is unique

How many Alex Rawding-Guille’s do you know? Yes just one (thank fuck). You can’t forget that name. Sometimes it doesn’t always work out in my favour, but I love being different. I feel like I’ve been through so much, that my name is me, and it would be wrong to let it go.

2. It’s the last piece I have that holds my family together

My mum and dad are no longer together, (don’t get me wrong I’m happy that they aren’t because they’re both so much better off), but it’s nice that myself, sisters and mum have the same name, with dads ‘Guille’ on the end. It’s sentimental having two sides of my family joined into one name. And you know what? If your last name is Rawding-Guille it automatically makes you a bad ass bitch.

3. Taking on my boyfriends name just seems weird

Being a mum, is so full on. I don’t get a moment to myself, and I’m called ‘mum’ all day long which then makes you feel like you’ve no identity. It’s easy to forget sometimes that you are your own person, with your own back story. So taking on my partners name, would feel like I’m scrubbing out my own story. I am still a person, I still love makeup even though I never have the time to whack it on, I still love laying in, but for now the idea of one will do, I still love meeting up with friends and doing normal adult things, even though it rarely ever happens! taking away all the things I love, doesn’t seem fair. So I’ll hold onto my own name which I love thank you.

4. I have no relationship with the other surname

I have no connection or involvement with my partners surname. I don’t get along with his family from that side, and it already feels a bit strange that my children have that same name, because they do not have a lot to do with them too. So because of that it just doesn’t feel right for me. I’ve never felt included or liked, so I won’t rename myself to try and fit in where I’m not wanted! If something doesn’t feel right, just don’t do it I say.

5. Because I can

Once upon a time, an option, a decision, a choice made, just like this one wouldn’t have been possible. So I’ll take joy in being able to make my own decisions, based on what feels right for me.

6. We’re living in modern times

In this day and age, families have all different names etc. In this household we have three different surnames and that’s absolutely fine for us. Our surnames do not define us but my last name means a lot to me.

and that’s that!

Alex

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An interview with my 7 year old

Sat cuddling on our sofa, bored of the snow/snow talk (deffo my daughter) I asked Florence, if she would like to take part in an interview that I’d put up as a blog post. She said “yeah cool, will aqua beads want you to do a product review if I say yes?”

“Who knows?” I reply, “Perhaps you’re a household name”. She fake giggles.

Ok then, describe yourself in three words?

Pretty, strong, intelligent.

What’s the one thing you’d like to learn?

A double back flip!

How many toys do you own?

Um I know this one… it’s about 20,000 I’d say.

Who’s your best friend?

Ummm I don’t know, I have a lot. It depends on the day.

When you grow up what would you like to be?

A backing dancer. That’s a good job isn’t it?

What’s the most annoying thing mummy does?

Tells me to get off the iPad *rolls eyes*

What do you think of before you go to sleep?

Hairstyles

What’s your opinion on Brexit?

It’s confusing…why would you want to be on different teams? Anyway, at least we can vote now I guess!

If you had to eat one thing for the rest of your days, what would it be?

I would have to say Chocolate.

What would you do if your favourite toy spoke to you?

Well… I’d speak back. And then I’d scream.

What’s the funniest thing that’s ever happened to you?

One time, at school someone farted in class, and then everyone pretended to fart.

If you could drive a car, where would you drive off to?

I’d go to toys R us to buy a LOL doll.

Who is your fashion inspiration?

Well…it’s going to have to be… Perrie from little mix, I would say we are quite the same, because we like the same hair and t shirts.

What’s the most important thing you’ve learnt so far in life?

Sadly black people, used to be slaves, and that’s really not good, and bad and I don’t want that to happen again.

Should mummy get married?

No Mitch farts a LOT.

How many babies should mummy have?

Around 26?

What’s the silliest thing Daddy does?

He makes these duck fart noises. It’s just so cray cray.

What’s your thoughts on Hillary Clinton losing out on the US presidency against Donald Trump?

It is so embarrassing! He’s a bad guy. He says the weirdest things on the iPad.

Who’s your favourite family member minus myself Daddy and your Brother and Sister?

Grandad *big grin*

What do you love most about your aunties?

Holly is like, so fashionable. Tori is a good horse rider, and Ellice is very funny.

If you could go on holiday to somewhere you’ve not been before where would you go?

San Diego. Flo you’ve been there… Oh what’s that place that does this dance *does hula dance* Hawaii? Ye!

What do you think about the statement “girl power” ?

I think it’s good, it shows girls that yes we can do everything we want to do and we are strong like the boys. And that we can play football too.

What’s the best thing Mummy has ever said to you?

We’re going to Disney land!!!!

Worst thing?

Lady GaGa show is cancelled

What’s the worst thing in Mummy’s wardrobe?

That jumpsuit, with the patterns, I mean. Come on.

What do you think of Mummy’s shaven head?

No.

Are you going to get married one day?

Pfft.

Babies?

No. Well. I might buy one at a orphanage.

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